Dear Brown Girl,
I know it’s hard. You’ve been holding on for so long, hoping that maybe, just maybe, they’ll finally see you the way you see them. You’ve given your time, your love, your energy—waiting for that moment where they realize just how special you are. But that moment hasn’t come, has it?
And it hurts. I know it does. You’re left questioning yourself, wondering what you could have done differently, or worse, what’s wrong with you. Let me stop you right there, sis. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not too much, and you are certainly not asking for too much. What you are is enough, exactly as you are. But here’s the truth—you’re giving your enough to people who don’t have the capacity to recognize your worth.
I get it, though. It’s not easy to walk away from people you care about. You think, "Maybe if I’m more patient, more understanding, more accommodating, they’ll change. Maybe they’ll finally see the real me, the person who’s been loving them through their worst." But Brown Girl, listen closely: you deserve someone who sees your worth without you having to shrink yourself for them. You deserve to be valued in your entirety, without conditions, without limits, without having to jump through hoops to prove you’re worthy of their love or respect.
Settling for less than you deserve isn’t just about romantic relationships. It’s about friendships, family, coworkers—anyone in your life who makes you feel like you’re not enough, or worse, that your value is only tied to what you can do for them. These people? They’re draining you. They’re taking from you without giving anything back, and you deserve so much better.
I know you’ve spent nights crying, wondering why you’re not being seen, why you feel invisible. But sis, you’re not invisible. You’ve just been shining in spaces that weren’t meant for you. Your light is too bright for some people—they’ll never be able to appreciate it. And that’s okay, because you’re not for everyone. You are meant for those who will cherish every part of you—the ones who see you for who you are, not just for what you do for them.
I also know you’re afraid. Afraid of being alone, afraid of letting go of the people who’ve been in your life for so long. Afraid that if you walk away, no one else will come along. But sis, I promise you, when you make room for what’s meant for you, the right people will enter your life. The ones who see your worth the first time, without you having to explain it. The ones who love you loudly, who appreciate your presence, who lift you up and remind you of your brilliance when you forget.
It’s time to stop settling for crumbs when you deserve the whole feast. It’s time to reclaim your worth. Look in the mirror and remind yourself of who you are—a strong, beautiful, intelligent, and resilient Brown girl. You are worthy of love, respect, and admiration. You are deserving of people who pour into you just as much as you pour into them.
It’s going to take time. It’s going to take courage to let go of the people who don’t value you the way you deserve. But when you do, you’ll feel lighter. You’ll feel more at peace. And you’ll realize that you were never the problem. You were always enough. You’ve always been enough.
So, dear Brown Girl, stop settling. Know your worth, and don’t let anyone treat you as if you’re anything less than the queen you are. The people who are meant for you, the ones who truly see and appreciate your value, will come. And when they do, you won’t have to question your place in their lives, because they’ll make sure you know just how loved and valued you are.
With Infinite Love Always,
Your Truest Self 🖤🤎