The Power of Not Giving A F%$@

Let’s be real for a second, ladies. There’s a magical power in not giving a f%$@. I’m not talking about becoming cold-hearted or abandoning your responsibilities. I’m talking about the freedom that comes when you finally decide to stop caring about the things that don’t serve you—because trust me, there are plenty of them.

As a wife, mom and entrepreneur, I spent years trying to be everything to everyone, and let me tell you, it nearly drove me to the edge. I was juggling kids, work, side hustles, social media, and—oh, don’t forget—trying to maintain some sort of life in between all that chaos. I tried to be the “perfect” mom, the “perfect” business owner, the “perfect” friend, and don’t even get me started on the “perfect” Instagram mom (we all know that’s a full-time job in itself).

But you know what? The more I tried to please everyone, the more miserable I became. And that’s when it hit me: I don’t have to give a f%$@ about every little thing. In fact, it’s freeing as hell.

1. Letting Go of the “Perfect Mom” Myth

Being a mom is tough, and anyone who says otherwise is lying. From the minute your kid enters this world, society bombards you with these high expectations of what it means to be a "good" mom. But here’s the truth—there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to motherhood. Some days, I’m lucky if I get my kids to eat more than two meals a day that don’t involve a snack. (And if they’ve had at least one vegetable, I consider that a win.)

But I’ve learned to embrace the fact that I’m doing the best I can. The “perfect mom” who bakes homemade cookies, volunteers at the PTA, and still has time for yoga at 5 AM? That’s not me—and guess what? That’s okay. So, I stopped giving a f%$@ about living up to anyone else’s standards of motherhood and started focusing on being the best version of myself for my kids. If I want to watch Netflix in my pajamas instead of doing a Pinterest craft with them, I do it. No shame.

2. Being Real About Business

Let’s talk about entrepreneurship for a second. Starting and growing a business is hard. It’s like raising a child—it takes time, patience, and a whole lot of hustle. But here’s the thing I wish someone had told me earlier: You don’t have to have it all figured out right away. Perfection is the enemy of progress, and if I spent my entire entrepreneurial journey trying to get everything just right, I would’ve never launched anything.

When I decided to stop giving a f%$@ about being perfect in business, everything shifted. I embraced the messiness, the learning curves, and the mistakes. Because guess what? Every failed email campaign, every bad idea, and every time I stumbled just taught me how to do better next time. So I stopped worrying about the small stuff—like how my website looks or whether my social media posts are “aesthetic” enough—and started focusing on what truly mattered: getting sh%t done.

3. The Power of Setting Boundaries

Can we talk about boundaries for a minute? I used to think that being a people-pleaser meant I had to say yes to everything. But now, I’ve realized that my time, my peace, and my energy are precious. So I started saying “no”—a lot. Saying no doesn’t make me selfish; it makes me smart.

I started saying no to unnecessary drama, no to toxic relationships, and no to things that didn’t align with my goals. And let me tell you, saying “no” felt so damn good. The relief of clearing out the nonsense has been life-changing. I’ve learned that I don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting my peace.

4. Laughing at Life’s Chaos

Let’s be honest—life is chaotic. Whether you’re an entrepreneur trying to build your empire, a mom who’s juggling it all, or someone who’s just trying to make it through the week, chaos is inevitable. But here’s the thing: instead of stressing about it, I started laughing at the chaos. Seriously, some days are just too ridiculous not to laugh at. Like the time my toddler decided to pour glitter all over the living room right before a Zoom call. Or when I accidentally hit "reply all" on an email to my entire team with a message about one particular person. It happens. And now, I’m here for the chaos, because it makes for great stories later.

When you stop taking yourself so seriously, you start to enjoy the ride. Life’s a mess, and that’s what makes it fun.

Dear Brown Girl,

You don’t have to have it all figured out. Stop stressing over the small stuff and start focusing on what truly matters—your happiness, your peace, and your growth. Set boundaries, laugh at the chaos, and remember: you are doing your best, and that’s enough. Stop giving a f%$@ about what doesn’t serve you, and embrace the magic of imperfection.

With Infinite Love Always, Your Truest Self 🖤🤎